This post is part of a newly-developed category called “Passion Posts.” In this section, I will write short posts about topics that I feel passionate about. These topical essays are meant to invoke change and highlight biblical principles for different circumstances. These posts are also meant to start constructive conversations about real-life experiences.
Passion Post #1: Say No to Invalidation
Invalidation is a tool of the enemy that causes further division. We shouldn’t discredit someone’s life experiences just because we may disagree with that person. When others speak out about something that’s hurting them, we, as Christians, are supposed to bear one another’s burdens rather than dismiss them (Galatians 6:2). I am discouraged by those who silence others because their biased viewpoints were challenged.
If someone tells you about his struggle with sexuality, you shouldn’t demonize that person for it. Instead, lift that person up in prayer and let him know that you are interceding for him. If a woman shares her struggle with abortion or a past sexual assault, you shouldn’t judge her or label her as a “sinner.” Instead, sit with her, hold her, and show her that she is loved unconditionally by her Heavenly Father. If someone opens up to you about racial injustice, instead of devaluing her or asking her to give more evidence to substantiate her claims, walk alongside that person, and try to understand her agony. No matter how “politically correct” you want to be, you must realize that pain is universal.
Invalidating someone’s grief creates discouragement. Discouragement leads to isolation, and isolation leads to impending sorrow. We need to let others know that we are fighting with them and for them. We need to lift each other up, not tear each other down. We don’t need more division in the name of political correctness. We need unity in the name of Christ. If Jesus isn’t the center, then life has lost all meaning.
“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'”